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The Best Advice Ever

If our thinking or intuition (different people use different tools to make decisions) is somehow not functioning properly (many different reasons for that to happen, which I’m not going to cover in this blog), we may experience vulnerability and be easily persuaded into making decisions that don’t necessarily serve our best interest. Often, people feel confused and it influences the parts of the brain responsible for thinking and intuition. Such affected people may find hard to focus and they reach out to others in the search for help in a decision-making process. I know it well from my own experience. When I feel confused I shouldn’t be making any kind of long-term, life-changing decisions as there is a big chance I won’t get it right. Obviously, I very well understand that turning to a family member or a friend for advice when our own judgment is compromised, is a logical step. However, the most important question is whether we should actually follow that advice to the tee or treat it only as someone else’s opinion. …

Shining Bright

While driving from one of my son’s classes (he is currently homeschooled) the Little M. decided to share with me how he felt while he was still at school. We tend to do that; all of a sudden he remembers something that happened ages ago and talks about is as if it had happened just yesterday. When he was still attending Steiner School in London, he said that he felt “useless” in the classroom. Useless because all the kids around him could read and write and he couldn’t. To be precise, not all the kids could read and write but most could and the ones who couldn’t were slowly making progress. He said that he tried hard to work on his reading and writing. He thought that if he worked harder, he could catch up with everyone else. But in reality, it never happened. For a very long time (way too long) he received no help from his class teacher or the school and his anxiety levels was high and his self-confidence non-existing. When he told …

Why Are Some People So Very Persistent?

Anyone who decides to follow her heart’s desires needs to be persistent. In short, she must have a hard ass to land on. Pursuing one’s dreams is a long-term commitment, often without shortcuts or easy to follow guidelines. Some people are natural warriors and can easily resist the desire to quit. Some people need to learn slowly how it works and how to find strength in oneself. My persistence is partially (I guess) connected to my dyslexia. According to the research, dyslexic learners are more resilient than non-dyslexic learners. I’m only learning all of this now while educating myself about the subject because of my son’s profound dyslexia. In reality, dyslexic learners (I’m one) have to work so much harder than others on everything they do, beginning with the early school years. So now just imagine women, who in general need to work harder than blokes to get anywhere and on top of it add dyslexia. Of course, everything is possible and doable for dyslexic learners, but with a lot of personal sacrifice and inner …

People Don’t Like When You Change

Let’s be honest here; change is terrifying for most of us, and most people don’t like when others around them change. I know it first handed since a lot has changed for me in the recent months, which made a lot of people around me incredibly uncomfortable. The disapproval of my inner change was very subtle, almost invisible at first but the more I noticed how people reacted to me or how they started avoiding me, the more I began questioning why people fear the unknown so much. Instead of seeing a change as an act of bravery it is perceived as something negative and unwelcome in the society. However, people change all the time; some people even choose to work very hard to change their ways and their lives. In a society obsessed with perfection, the change is an enemy because it means that what was before wasn’t perfect. I feel that modern society enjoys living in denial in many aspects of private, social, and political areas. Denial is much less threatening than change, …

Mindfulness with Goldie Hawn

The Little M. just finished class 2, and throughout the whole year, he was very restless, unfocused and all over the place very often. We don’t have a TV at home, and the Little M. doesn’t watch movies or play games on our phones so his restlessness couldn’t be blamed on too much exposure to the visual content. During that year we have tried many different therapies to help him overcome his fidgetiness and lack of focus, but it wasn’t until I attempted mindfulness that something finally worked. Desperate and exhausted (a lot of parents get to that point) I wondered if perhaps yoga and meditation were going to be the right answer for the Little M. Since it was summer and we were travelling I didn’t give much energy or time to ponder on my wanderings. Until one day, purely by accident, I discovered a MindUp program. MindUp is built on years of research by top scientists and pioneered and promoted by Goldie Hawn (she is not only an actress but also an educational …