All posts filed under: Polish Gal in London

To All Smokers Living in My Building

I live with my family on the ground floor flat in South East London. I’ve been in London for the past 20 years and have lived all over the city. During my time in the capital non-smoking policy in public places and restaurants was introduced and implemented, which meant that non-smokers could finally enjoy a cup of tea without being slowly and silently “killed” over that very cup of tea. However, it looks that in my block of flats (3 buildings in total) non-smoking policy in common space doesn’t apply. Even though there are signs that clearly state “no smoking” and there is even a special designated area for the smokers. How fantastic is that, anyone? My apartment is close to the lift, which is surprisingly very quiet and doesn’t bother me at all. It is also near the back entrance to the building, which leads to the parking lot (I’m very grateful for my parking space). That door sometimes gets broken and doesn’t close properly, which during the windy days is incredibly annoying but …

I Cannot Keep Quiet Any Longer!!!

It’s very likely that I’ve already written about smartphones, tablets, and kids spending gazillions of their childhood minutes glued to those devices. I feel very strongly about that subject and always have. I believe in the power of humongous negative influence all those “smart” devices have on kids and parents-children relationships. What kind of relationship are parents expecting to have with their kids, if from the very young age their best friend is their parent’s smartphone or a tablet? Yes, I’m in strong opposition to tablets and smartphones being used by small kids while shopping at Tesco’s, changing a nappy or merely having a stroll up and down the high street. Seriously people, what is wrong with you? I am trying not to be judgmental, but it is very hard not to stare and make unkind, frankly pretty nasty comments towards parents who chose electric babysitters to have peace of their minds. Why the fuck do you even have kids if the only thing you want from them is to be quiet and pretend not …

What Happened to the Community?

Do you remember when, as children, we spend the whole day or an afternoon with the neighbours’ kids in their house: playing, eating, and doing whatever else children do? Nobody had to plan that spontaneous visit weeks in advance. You just turned up at the front door, and if your friend/s could come out and play or invite you in for tea, you were all in. As children, we should be playing as much as possible and having someone else to play with us was a mandatory requirement of any happy childhood. Back in my childhood, the whole society relied on spontaneous acts of kindness; it was nothing out of the ordinary. Relying on your neighbours, especially when the kids were concerned, was not a sign of weakness. We were all part of the same community, and as part of it, the neighbourly help was very much a common practice. Fast forward to 2018, and it seems to me that the innocence of those years is completely gone and people hardly ever get together to …

Mind Games

I bet we all played mind games in high school, just to get back at our mortal enemies, or to amuse our wondering minds, or possibly just to survive the jungle the high school is. When I was growing up, I had this romantic idea of being a grown up and behaving responsibly just like the adults should. However, once I moved on from my childhood into my teenage years followed by adult life I realised that adulthood is, more or less, just like high school: often painful, unpredictable and overflowing with mind games coming at you from every possible direction. I have always tried to be an honest person. What you see what you get kind of gal. Unfortunately, this attitude often gets me in trouble. I’m either too honest or too reserved with my opinions and judgments. I can never figure out what is the politically correct response that would and could save my skin. It is about saving your skin, right? The bottom line for me is always honesty. Honesty without mind …

The Best Advice Ever

If our thinking or intuition (different people use different tools to make decisions) is somehow not functioning properly (many different reasons for that to happen, which I’m not going to cover in this blog), we may experience vulnerability and be easily persuaded into making decisions that don’t necessarily serve our best interest. Often, people feel confused and it influences the parts of the brain responsible for thinking and intuition. Such affected people may find hard to focus and they reach out to others in the search for help in a decision-making process. I know it well from my own experience. When I feel confused I shouldn’t be making any kind of long-term, life-changing decisions as there is a big chance I won’t get it right. Obviously, I very well understand that turning to a family member or a friend for advice when our own judgment is compromised, is a logical step. However, the most important question is whether we should actually follow that advice to the tee or treat it only as someone else’s opinion. …