All posts filed under: Polish Gal in London

People Don’t Like When You Change

Let’s be honest here; change is very scary for most of us and most people don’t like when others around them change. I know it first handed since a lot has changed for me in the recent months, which made a lot of people around me incredibly uncomfortable. The disapproval of my inner change was very subtle, almost invisible at first but the more I noticed how people reacted to me or how they started avoiding me, the more I started questioning why people fear the unknown so much. Instead of seeing a change as an act of bravery it is perceived as something negative and unwelcome in the society. However, people change all the time, some people even choose to work very hard to change their ways and their lives. In a society obsessed with perfection, the change is an enemy because it means that what was before wasn’t perfect. I personally feel that modern society enjoys living in denial in many aspects of private, social, and political areas. Denial is much less threatening …

Mindfulness with Goldie Hawn

The Little M. just finished class 2 and throughout the whole year, he was very restless, unfocused and all over the place very often. We don’t have a TV at home and the Little M. doesn’t watch movies or play games on our phones so his restlessness couldn’t be blamed on too much exposure to the visual content. During that year we have tried many different therapies to help him overcome his fidgetiness and lack of focus but it wasn’t until I tried mindfulness that something finally worked. Desperate and exhausted (a lot of parents get to that point) I wondered if perhaps yoga and meditation were going to be the right answer for the Little M. Since it was summer and we were travelling I didn’t give much energy or time to ponder on my wonderings. Until one day, purely by accident, I discovered a MindUp program. MindUp is built on years of research by top scientists and pioneered and promoted by Goldie Hawn (she is not only an actress but also an educational …

Parents Wake Up!!!

Parenting isn’t easy and most parents I know will tell you that. Anyone involved in teaching or parenting will also tell you that kids are not like they used to be. Children became more demanding from their parents and the environment while at the same time more hyped up with short attention, restlessness and impulsivity running their bodies and minds. All this kind of behaviour is often caused by various conditions children suffer from such as dyslexia, ADD, ADHD, dyspraxia or language delay, just to name a few. In reality, it means that parents need to be more vigilant in spotting difficulties and struggles their kids face at and outside of school, which are connected to their learning differences or any sort of condition they may suffer from. As parents, we need to step up our game and become our children’s spoke persons advocating for their rights and helping them all along the way. Unfortunately, schools are usually underfunded (at the end of the day corporations need larger tax breaks and military needs more funding …

Creative Enablers

It is both amusing and deeply disturbing when certain people feel an obligation to intervene with other’s creative process. And I’m not even talking about political and corporate influence only. I’m talking about more down to earth influence from the people around you; people you know well, who try to tell you what is moral and what is not. Telling you that you must take others’ feelings into account while working on your story or art; what you’re “allowed” to publish or what you should bottle up within. If we, the creatives, all complied with this logic and each time took into an account everyone’s feelings and suggestions not much would have been done by the humanity and we would still be hunters and gatherers. Just imagine all those investigative journalists writing about sexual harassment and not actually publishing anything in fear of hurting the families of sexual predators. No one breakthrough documentary would have been made ‘cos someone’s feelings could have gotten hurt somewhere along the way. No meaningful memoirs would have been written …

Roots and Uprooting.

When I was born I lived with my grandparents for some time before my parents and I moved out to our own flat where we stayed for another 10 years. I finished grade five when, out of blue over the summer holidays, my parents decided to move the whole family to a tiny, full of jealousy town championing backwards ways of existing. The move was so unexpected and unplanned that I didn’t really have time to say goodbye to my friends and teachers or even digest the sudden uprooting my parents were serving me with. Since that move my parents decided to be constantly on the lookout for new houses and places to live in; the older they get the more often they move, upsizing with every move instead of downsizing. When I was 19 I moved to London and, keeping with my family’s tradition, I decided to change my accommodation every six months. Back then it was much harder to move since you had to get up early in the morning, go to your …