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People Don’t Like When You Change

Let’s be honest here; change is terrifying for most of us, and most people don’t like when others around them change.
I know it first handed since a lot has changed for me in the recent months, which made a lot of people around me incredibly uncomfortable. The disapproval of my inner change was very subtle, almost invisible at first but the more I noticed how people reacted to me or how they started avoiding me, the more I began questioning why people fear the unknown so much.
Instead of seeing a change as an act of bravery it is perceived as something negative and unwelcome in the society.

However, people change all the time; some people even choose to work very hard to change their ways and their lives.
In a society obsessed with perfection, the change is an enemy because it means that what was before wasn’t perfect.
I feel that modern society enjoys living in denial in many aspects of private, social, and political areas. Denial is much less threatening than change, even if down the line that real change may influence generations, environment, or perhaps just happiness of one person. For many, the change is like an unwanted guest they can’t get rid of.

Throughout human history, we have learnt that nothing would have ever been accomplished without actively searching for change.
And that’s why I believe that embracing change, which helps us not only evolve as species but also as individuals, is the only way forward for us. If your change starts making people uncomfortable and you lose friends so what, you will find new friends, friends of the person who you’re becoming. If your family doesn’t like that you become fearless and outspoken, well… maybe no more Sunday roast for you for the time being.

You owe it to yourself; to accept the change that is brewing and growing in you. Fighting for your real self is not shameful or wrong and so worth sacrificing all the friendships that are toxic and limiting because the change is you and you is what counts the most.

Filed under: Polish Gal in London, Writing

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Magda Olchawska is an award-winning independent filmmaker, writer and screenwriter. She writes not only about making films and writing but also about financially independent and sustainable lifestyle. Her current projects include Ecotopia Universe and School Runs.

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